2021 in review – and good f###ing riddance!

Well, what can I say about 2021? This year has smacked us both into next week pretty much consistently and we’ve found out how strong we actually are. We’ve also learnt pretty much a lifetime’s worth in one year and become completely different people from the ones we were when it started.

We even embarked into being students again, which was exciting and terrifying at the same time. We’ve grappled with time zones and with our own ###t equally.

We’ve had to take the year, one step at a time. At once, hopeless and hopeful, despairing and determined. We’ve had to deal with not being seen and not being able to connect with people. We’ve fought overwhelm while running on empty and ploughed on regardless when all we really wanted to do was give up and let somebody — anybody — else take over.

But the thing is, sometimes things are handed to you for a reason.  Sometimes it isn’t anybody else’s job. Sometimes there isn’t anyone to delegate to. Hell, even to talk to about it! So when you grit your teeth and gather up your (in my case, metaphorical) cajones for the thousandth time to get on with the job, just remember the story of Solomon’s temple.

If only those pesky demons had kept themselves to themselves they wouldn’t have ended up enslaved and having to build his temple for him. Damn! I bet they wish they’d stayed home that day! 😉

The fact is that the more challenges you have to overcome the stronger and better you will get at doing it. So when those unfair and unacceptable things happen, remember that they are also working for you to build you something better; because that is the nature of light and dark. One assists the other in moving forward, even though they don’t intend to.

So, take that demons! 😉 – we just got bigger and smarter and better than we could have done without the absolute pile of s###e that came our way this year. And that’s got to be better for everyone.

Who do you think you are?

This month I have learnt something really important. I have learnt about me! To thine own self be true seems to be the theme of this year. And having (re)discovered myself, that is exactly what I am going to do.

What about you? Are you being the real version of yourself? Or are you, instead, embodying the version of yourself that others want to see, or your boss prefers, or your family needs you to be?

When you peel away everyone else who has an input or an opinion on who you are – what is left? Or rather who is left? Who would you be if you weren’t having to adapt to other people’s demands, or conform to other’s expectations? Take some time and think about that. Mull over it in the bath, or maybe do some journaling. It’s a big question!

It is true that you can’t contain energy. The energy that makes up who we are cannot be limited. And yet we impose limits upon ourselves. DOH! Why do we do it?? We make ‘boxes’ for ourselves, and we label them and ask ourselves to stay inside them.

I’ve never been very good with people imposing limits on me from outside. In fact, just try it! I will kick over the traces in no time. But what about ME placing limits on myself? That’s just fine and dandy it seems.

Well, after my recent wake-up call I’m calling time! NO MORE LIMITS! And I suggest you do it as well. Firstly, souls can’t be contained and restricted and secondly, why on earth would we do this to ourselves instead of being everything we can be and came here to be.

So… it’s coming up to Halloween. A good time to look back on your year. On who you SHOULD have been and who you are GOING to be. If you’ve been hiding your light under a bushel then give yourself a quick slap round the face (with a wet fish if necessary) and snap out of it.

I’m limitless, you’re limitless. Get with the program and get your real self out there in the world where it’s needed.

‘Nuff said!

The art of self-forgiveness

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Self-forgiveness is an important subject that sometimes gets overlooked, especially in a world where we often have much to forgive others for!

It was Thich Nhat Hanh’s 94th birthday (or more properly – Continuation Day) on 12th October this year. He was asking people to carry on his teachings of mindfulness and forgiveness. I thought I would try to give him a present that he would like by forgiving someone.

As part of Vishen Lakhiani’s 6-phase meditation (see You Tube, Mind Valley) you have to forgive someone each time, so naturally I started with a long list! I gradually worked through them til I was really struggling and started to leave out that part. However, when it came to Thay’s ‘birthday’ I considered forgiveness again and realised I should include myself on that list!

It came to my attention again when my partner, Dan (who has the patience of a saint, and is generally the soul of compassion!) was out driving and getting very angry when someone was driving right up his boot. Dan being angry is a rare event, so I thought we should look into it to see what he was really mad about.

He said he was angry that people (who were driving up his boot) didn’t give others any space or consideration, and that they had no patience for others.

What you are angry at externally is usually something to do with yourself, so we considered his answer in that light and came up with: perhaps he was really angry that he didn’t give himself enough consideration and that he was very impatient with himself. This turned out to be spot on.

The reason I have told this story is to illustrate that very often when we think we are mad at others, we are actually mad at ourselves, and it is something that can get overlooked. In the main, people do tend to be too hard on themselves and need to cut themselves some slack.

We inhabit physical bodies and part of being human is that we are not perfect. We are not here to attain perfection either! We are here to try and improve ourselves, and to learn and grow within the limitations of a physical form.

So, starting from that premise, you’re human – you will make mistakes! However highly advanced you are spiritually, however many lives you’ve had and whatever ‘heights’ you have previously achieved, that is still the case. So let up on yourself! As long as you are not deliberately causing harm to others you can breathe easy, look at whatever the mistake was, decide not to repeat it and forgive yourself for your human ‘frailty’.

We are here to learn and grow. If there is no growth there is no life, or no point to life. Growth doesn’t have to be huge. Experiencing a sunrise can be growth! We are all growing and changing through our experiences and our interactions with each other. We learn what does, and doesn’t, piss each other off! And we learn how it feels when we behave in a certain way, and whether or not that is fulfilling or helpful for us.

Fully embracing the physical form and all the experiences that are available to us on this beautiful planet is something we will each do in our own unique way. Some will stumble more than others on the path. There is no one perfect strategy for being human or living our lives.

You can only try to do your best, monitor your actions and feelings and try not to repeat your mistakes. Physical incarnation brings its challenges, and it’s supposed to.

Thich Nhat Hanh would have us show compassion and love and forgive one another. This is a very worthy aim, but it is easy to forget that in order to forgive others, it is helpful to first forgive ourselves.

So lighten up. You’re going to make mistakes, but don’t brood over them. Pick yourself up and move forward. Show yourself the same love and compassion as you would show a child who is still only learning how things work. There is so much to know about life. We are still only learning, whatever age we are. Mistakes are part of that, and we should try and embrace them, and ourselves, with compassion and understanding. After all – charity starts at home, right?

Launch of Mooniverse Books

This month we have some exciting news to share! Since our cat Moo, died, we have been contemplating how we would like to honour his memory.

As well as running our Multi-Dimensional Healing service, Dan and I both write books. We realised that as all our books have a spiritual dimension, we could link all our work together under the one umbrella, so to speak.

We decided to start our own company to publish the graphic novels, children’s books and non-fiction books that we have written. We came up with the name Mooniverse Books, as it combines our interest in spirituality, with our love of cats (Moo in particular!) 😉 and our desire to make a difference in the world.

We have many different books scheduled for release this year, but our first two are, “Karl the Hotdog Wizard,” a humorous and thought -provoking graphic novel about the likeable, yet rather naive Karl, who is searching for greater meaning in his life, and a book inspired by Moo himself, called “There’s More to Your Cat.” This pocket size read, covers simple energy work you can do on your cat, along with animal communication techniques and a deeper look at the nature of consciousness and how it relates to our animal friends.

If you are interested in buying a copy, click on the photo above to be taken to our Etsy page. We would also like to invite you to visit our Mooniverse Books website where you can find out more about what we do, check out our new releases, and explore links to our range of ‘I love Moo’ greetings cards and other merchandise on Redbubble.

The Hidden Power of Playfulness

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Most people aren’t aware that ‘play’ is a very powerful thing.  The less limits you impose upon yourself when looking for a solution, the greater the range of options available to you. The more relaxed and free you can be in your energy, the easier it will be to reach a state of flow with your intuition and inspiration. Ideas and solutions will come rapidly and without effort.

Play is a willingness to be much more free in our expression. So much of the time, we feel we must keep our feelings, our facial expressions, our urges to dance etc, to ourselves.  We have been brought up hearing a variety of old adages, among others:

  • Children should be seen and not heard
  • Sit still and don’t make a fuss
  • Don’t be a showoff
  • Don’t blow your own trumpet
  • Put other people first
  • Don’t attract attention to yourself

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A lot of these ideas are reasonable in context, but the trouble is, they get embedded in our subconscious, so we tend to always act according to those guidelines, even if we are not aware of it. Putting other people first is polite and friendly, but isn’t a good idea all the time. You need to put yourself first now and again, or you tend to get stuck in the default behaviour pattern of ‘I must put everyone else first.’  This then becomes an imbalance, and you will inevitably suffer from it in some way, mentally, physically or emotionally. There needs to be a balance.

It is the same with play and self-expression. Take a job interview for example; that would be a sensible place NOT to fully express your urge to dance, giggle and pull stupid faces! (Wait til you get out of the room at least!) 😉

It just takes a bit of common sense, and lo, you realise you CAN express yourself as you feel in the current moment. As an example, while giving my hands a break from typing this article, I decided to ‘play the piano’ on my gel wrist support. It was quite fun, gave my mind a break for a few moments and then I was back typing. I didn’t stop to wonder whether or not that was silly and I wouldn’t have if I’d been in an office environment either.

Who cares if you play the piano on your wrist support in your micro breaks? You still get the work done! You’ll feel more cheerful and your energy will thank you because it is not being contained. The thing people don’t realise is, being repressed and holding yourself back even in small ways TAKES ENERGY! You are devoting a proportion of your energy resources to this, when you could be using it on something you want to do.

That is one bonus of allowing yourself to be playful. The other is even more powerful. For example, in our Multi-Dimensional Healing work we are constantly looking for answers, tuning into the energy of the client and allowing ourselves to receive the information that we need to help the person.

You might think that you need to ‘REALLY CONCENTRATE’ in order to pull that off. But really concentrating is a form of resistance – because it means MAKING A BIG EFFORT. Effort means pushing against something and another word for that is resistance. What you resist persists, as I’m sure you’ve heard elsewhere.

So what is the answer? Not to try? Well, it’s more a case of ‘letting go’. ALLOWING the answers, the energy, the information to come, rather than pushing for it. It’s much easier that way and the quality of the information or inspiration will be much more helpful.

So in our work we find that humour, playfulness and relaxation are a much more effective way to get the best results. If you are telling us something serious or sad we won’t laugh and joke around, but at the same time we can’t allow it to upset us or make us too sad for you.

Our job is to detach from our emotional feelings and just allow ourselves to receive the information that would be most helpful at the time. That is the way we can perform best and be most useful to our clients.

It works well outside of the clinic room too. Where we can feel really sad and upset for other people’s lives and situations, we try not to allow it to bring OUR energy down, as if WE are down we cannot help anyone else.

Generally, if you are relaxed, laughing and playful your energy will be higher than if you are concentrating furiously, or trying really hard. The optimum state to be in for results is flow; it doesn’t matter if you’re a tennis player, a pianist or an accountant.

Being in a state of flow allows everything that you need in each moment to come to you.  If you are trying too hard, you hold it back from yourself and if you are sad or down, then again it limits the flow.

What we are actually doing by holding ourselves back, is cutting off our own potential. So think about how you behave and whether you are unconsciously following rules that you might have learnt in childhood, that are not appropriate right now.

It’s a beautiful world, but it is also ugly, depressing and full of things to bring you down. What the people and the planet needs most is joy, and the best way to reach that state is freedom of expression through fun, play and laughter. These are the energies that will help transform the world and can be a wonderful tonic to the people around you as well.