New Year New Moo! ;)

Apologies for the lack of a post in December but we were busy dealing with a rather surprising shift – that of our cat Moo, from the physical to the non physical. We were not expecting it at that point, although he was actually quite elderly for a Pedigree. We did expect though, that as and when the event happened, it would be a complete wipeout for us both.

Moo was our joy. He was ALL the joy, ALL the time. There aren’t really words to express how it felt having him in our lives. We thought it would be like trying to live in the world with the lights out, when he died. The actual experience was quite different however…

Moo suddenly stopped eating one weekend and with all the weight he’d lost earlier that year it didn’t take long for his body to shut down. We realise now, it was the time and method of his choosing so we can’t complain. It was also very peaceful and rather beautiful in an odd way, despite the trauma of having to ‘let him go’.

We are most definitely the jammiest ‘cat parents’ that ever lived, for being allowed to have him in the first place, and also because of the beautiful and incredibly advanced soul that he is. But most importantly because he chose to come and live with us AND (so he’s told us) that he intends to stay on for the duration of our physical incarnations! As far as we know, this isn’t very common – although it absolutely can happen.

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Animals will sometimes stay around for a while to comfort you. Sometimes they wait at the gate as it were, for you to pass on , or they might go on to another incarnation. Staying is rare, but it does happen – and we’re very grateful for it!

So… it has been rather different to how we expected!! It is actually the weirdest feeling – and we’re used to weird! 😉 It’s like feeling that he’s here, except you look around and you notice he’s physically not here. That’s what your eyes tell you. Your brain tells you something different – it’s telling you he IS here! It’s a most peculiar experience. But don’t get me wrong I’m very thankful for it!! I can’t even feel a hole, or sense of emptiness in the way that you do when a person or animal dies.

When my last cat died, it was very painful and took me several months to recover. This time it’s different though. Neither Dan or I can actually feel LACK. Moo was always there when we woke up (he usually woke us up and not at a very sociable time either ha ha!) Everything we did was for him or about him. Adjusting the curtains at night so he could jump through to the window ledge. Making sure we didn’t leave the front door open (he was an indoor cat), worrying about standing on him, shutting the bathroom door when running a bath in case he burnt himself, grooming his long coat, making sure he got enough fuss, checking his food and water, and when he last did a wee. Where was he (if he wasn’t already with us!) and did he need anything?

It was a 24/7 365/365 deal! And now we don’t do any of that. WE OUGHT TO MISS HIM!! We should feel a distinct LACK OF MOO! But it’s not there!

The other thing that’s different is that it’s much easier to communicate with him now. We were doing that before, especially when he was ill earlier this year and then later when he changed his toilet habits! But it is so much easier to ‘hear’ him now than it was before. We can also feel very much more clearly how much he loves us – which we were pretty certain of before, but – you know cats! One is always left wondering! LOL

Obviously, being who we are, working with and being sensitive to energy, has helped us greatly dealing with this transition, so we’re aware that we’re luckier than most in that respect. Especially the fact that he has chosen to stay around us so that we have that sense of his presence – which must be why we don’t feel that he’s ‘gone’!

Don’t get me wrong though – I’m not saying we didn’t grieve. The day he passed we went through a raft of emotions and more as the days and weeks went on. Shock, grief, numbness, denial, self recrimination (did we do enough to make him happy while he was alive?) and so on. But always this sense of not having actually lost him, although technically we had. It’s enough to make your head spin, so don’t think about it too hard while you’re reading this!

We also had the well-known phenomenon of a particular smell after a loved one passes. Usually it’s peculiar to the deceased – for example my husband Bob would always try and use Germolene on his face and I would tell him off for it. When he died I smelt… Germolene!! Often though, it’s something like a favourite flower or perfume – so less of the Germolene!!

With Moo there was a very particular smell after he died. I should have known better but I thought it might be me, so I had a bath, washed my hair, changed my clothes and STILL I could smell it – on and off the whole day. Even at the pub in the evening! I did know what it was really, but my logical mind needed me to wash, change clothes etc, just to be sure! 😉

Probably the thing that helped me the most, especially at the time, was when Moo was dying and I asked Dan to cut the cords to the physical body, so he could shoot off quickly and avoid too much discomfort. While Dan was doing that, Moo said just one thing to him: “I’ll be right back!”. It was everything I ever needed to hear!

We have – of course – because we can! – been communicating with Moo since his passing and have been asking him all sorts of questions – such as how do things work ‘over there’ for him and for us ‘over here’. It’s been most enlightening. I am writing a little book about our experience and hope to publish some of the ‘Conversations with Moo’ later on, as there is much wisdom there and he insists that the information is open to all and important for people to have (or disregard if they like, of course).

The first thing he told us was how beautiful it was. How he can see more colours and hear more sounds than he could before. Everything is a lot lighter too. There was a great sense of excitement and freedom as his energy is no longer limited to the physical body.

He is very excited about helping us, our friends and of course our clients. It has always been his intention to work with us in the healing clinic – which he did, as and when he wanted to! – while he was alive, but he’s very keen to work more as a team, now that he has no physical limitations. We feel incredibly lucky. The future, which we expected to be very dark without him, is now looking like it’s going to be a whole lotta light! Thank you Moo!

To wee – or not to wee (on the carpet!). The ins and outs of animal healing and healing ourselves as well!

Recently we have had to do some energy work on our cat Moo, who had a bout of illness and as a result, changed his ideas about where he would like to do his business!

While he’s not too bothered about weeing in the lounge or pooing in my study, we found it a bit upsetting to say the least! After a quick vet visit to rule out bladder infection or other physical problem, we then went to work to try and understand this delightful change of habit! 😉

Our methods when we work on a cat, as opposed to a client, i.e. a person are quite similar in lots of ways. With a person, we look for patterns on both the conscious and subconscious levels. With our cat however, that’s not quite the same, although as far as I know, he does have a conscious and a subconscious although I’m still a bit fuzzy how that works for cats! 😉

With something like this we like to talk to him to ask if there is anything he is worried about. When I say ‘talk’ I don’t mean chatting out loud of course – although there are times when that is useful and applicable. We use a method that is probably similar to that used by animal communicators. We tune into our cat’s energy, as we would with a client. Then we ask a clear question and wait for an answer – again in much the same way that we might when working on a person. I ask the question in my mind and wait for intuition/Source/my higher self to give me useful information.

So far so similar! In Moo’s case, he sometimes gives us answers such as, “I’m not recovered enough to use the litter tray. I want to. I need more time.” Which is great. However, when we asked why he suddenly decided to wee in the bedroom, we got the answer – “How would I know?!”

This is the point where we could have given up in despair, but we’ve gained a lot of experience working on Moo and have discovered something interesting. When we give an energetic message to our cat, it can be received in two ways. There is his higher self or soul and then there is what we call his ‘cat self’.

The cat self is instinctive in nature, it watches out for predators, chases birds or walks a certain route around the room. This said ‘cat self’ is separate from the higher self or soul and if you tell something to the higher self and get the message “OK, I’m happy now”, that is good, but you also have to inform the ‘cat self’ or you won’t get the changes you were looking for.

When talking to ‘cat self’ we found it communicates on a more simplistic level. Sometimes, just an emotion, picture, or one word reply, whereas higher self can give us more detailed responses.

In this case, we deliberately tuned in to speak to ‘cat self’ and asked about the bedroom incident! Cat self communicated (in feelings/pictures) that it was feeling anxious about weeing downstairs but felt safe when we were in the room, hence the 2 a.m. bedroom wee!

Once we realised this, we were able to do some energy work on fear patterns and being safe, which we made sure was heard by cat self as well as higher self! This seems to have done the trick! – but it occurred to me that we humans also need to understand things on different levels in order for healing to occur.

When we are working on a client with a physical problem, we try to get to the root of why it is happening and make a change there. For example, when I was trying to heal my hiatus hernia I realised I needed to make the decision to move house so there was less pressure on me.

Once my body realised I was committed to making changes, it was prepared to ease up on the physical symptoms. Yay! So we always ask if the body has heard the message.

Sometimes, though, it’s not enough, the body has heard but not understood. I’m not sure why this is, but I think it’s to do with the fact that some of our ideas and emotions exist at a very deep level so need a bit more work to shift them.

It is important to line up both responses in order to get physical change, so if something doesn’t happen and on the surface it looks like everything is lined up for success, try looking a little deeper – it may be you have a subconscious belief or feeling that is getting in the way.

Talking to the subconscious can be tricky, but if you put yourself into a relaxed state where you are not pushing too hard, you can ask questions and get answers back. They might not be what you expect – but very useful all the same – so anytime you are really struggling and cannot make sense of why, it might be time to have a little chat with your subconscious!

If at first you don’t succeed… maybe it’s more complex than you think!!

Dan and I often do work on each other, as, being human, you can imagine we have our own stuff to process, as well as helping clients process theirs! Last night we were working on a belief – well 3 beliefs actually – that were all related.

We often work on beliefs, they can be something we think on the conscious level or something we don’t think we believe which is hiding on the subconscious level. Dan’s three beliefs were subconscious but that’s not a problem so I thought I’d just do a quick bit of work on him while I had the time.

The first thing we do before we try clearing anything, is check whether there is a block. So – lo! – there was a block, but again, no problem with that, it comes up all the time.

The only thing was, I couldn’t shift the block, so I checked if there were any patterns underneath. There was not one, but two patterns! After a lot of energy work I finally shifted pattern no 1. “Aha!” – I thought, “pattern no 2 should shift easily now.”

No…

So after a bit of investigating I realised there was a belief under the pattern!! Yes you read that right, a block with two patterns underneath it and a belief underneath that. I should have been starting to get suspicious at this point!

But I don’t give up easily, so I went on and tried to remove the belief. Would it shift?! No it would not! And believe me we have a lot of techniques and I tried most of them during my attempts to move the block, the patterns, and the belief. Finally I had to admit defeat.

But here is the real problem. I felt like I’d failed. I felt I could have shifted things if only I’d been better at what I do. (I told you I was human and had stuff to process!) 😉

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We then went on to talk about the issue again and discovered that quite apart from the 3 beliefs I was trying to shift, there was another one – related to the first three but deeper. It was, if you like, the root cause of the others – and it would make sense that without shifting the deeper belief, I wouldn’t be able to shift the original three.

After this revelation, I did a bit more work on the deeper belief, and – hallelujah! – it cleared! We then decided to call it a night – that was enough work for one day! 😉

This was a very good lesson for me – so I thought I would share it, for other therapists – and indeed other human beings! – to ponder, with regard to the things we struggle with in life.

Perhaps, if you are trying and trying, using all your skills and intuition and you STILL don’t succeed, maybe there is something you don’t know. Maybe it is time to stand back, and detach, see what happens when you look at it from a different perspective or dig deeper into it.

It DOESN’T mean that you are not good enough, or that you have failed – it may just mean you are trying to move a rock when there is a mountain sitting on top of it! And sometimes the only way to move a mountain – even if it is a mixed metaphor 😉 – is in small bites!

Quantum Healing Event – October 12th

Well the season of mist and fruitfulness is upon us once more and all those short of something to do in the coming months should consider coming along to ‘An Introduction to the Quantum field of energy and self healing.’

If you want to know more about Sound healing, Geometric healing and healing via Bio-resonance then come along. We will also be there to give a talk and demonstration of Multi-Dimensional Healing. It should be a very interesting day.

We are looking forward to learning more about these other healing modalities and to share our own ideas which we hope will inspire people and empower them to change their lives for the better.

We will be explaining:

  • The connection between our thoughts and feelings and the physical body.
  • How and why transformation, instant and otherwise is always possible.
  • How we can get out of a place of ‘being stuck’ and access a state where something different can happen.
  • How to access a place of limitlessness and how we can use that in our daily lives.

The event takes place at Toftwood Village Hall, from 11-5 with plant-based lunch included. Tickets available from Eventbrite. We hope to see you there!

The power of imagination. What can you really do with your mind? Is daydreaming useful after all?

Most people underestimate the power of the imagination. The problem lies with the word. Imagine-ation. Imagine equals not real! Day dreaming is another word with a poor reputation. Oh – I was ONLY daydreaming. It also contains the word dreaming which describes things not real that can only be dreamed about – the insubstantial and unattainable.

That is, until you look at life from the quantum point of view. The fact that we are a vibrating mass of particles. Particle Physicists agree that what we think of as the Universe is 99.9999999% empty space.

This puts things in a different light. If we’re not solid and our bodies are not solid, then that sheds a different light on what our thoughts are made of. Presumably the same material – and the same goes for our dreams.

You know you can easily obtain a material thing, such as a tin of beans from a shop. But if you realise the tin of beans is not a material object but a non-material one, that puts it on the same plane as a dream home, a dream job, a dream anything. Now you’ve levelled the playing field a bit!

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In terms of how you go about attaining those things, the Law of Attraction goes a long way to explaining what to do. If you want to read more about it, I recommend ‘Ask and it is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks, or if you haven’t got time to read a whole book right now, try ‘Manifest your Desiresby the same authors which serves up the formula to you in illustrated bite size chunks that you can dip in and out of, or just read through, a few pages a day.

Your imagination isn’t just about the power to visualise it is also about flexibility; the ability to imagine or conceive new ideas, new routes forward, new ways of being.

So it’s okay to daydream. It doesn’t have to be wasted time, it can be productive! Your mind has so much more power than you think.

Mind over matter is a real thing, and it matters how you use it, so start focusing your mind on the things you want, rather than the things you don’t – and see what happens!

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