Do you live your life on autopilot? It’s time to get out of your bubble!

Have you noticed that a lot of people you see on the street don’t seem aware of their surroundings – and not just because they are walking along with their head in their mobile phone!

Dan and I call them Bubble People, not that you’re allowed to call anyone anything these days 😉  but nevertheless, I think it’s quite a good way to describe them. The idea is that they live in a very small bubble that only includes themselves – and maybe their other half, or their children (but not always!)

In conversation, you might notice that they only talk about themselves. They appear to have no interest in what you’re doing or how you’re feeling. You sometimes wonder whether they’d notice if you suddenly sprouted horns! 😉

But this isn’t a rant against Bubble People. After all, it’s not really their fault. They have just got caught up in an energy field that is very prevalent these days. Smartphones and social media encourage us to lose ourselves. Literally. In the same way as we lose ourselves in a TV programme or film, we can lose ourselves in constant scrolling.  It’s a kind of addiction and very easy to do, so I’m not preaching as I’m no exception and have to keep a watchful eye on myself at all times!

As humans, it is in our nature to seek out and explore, so scrolling Facebook or Instagram on our devices plays into this. Even watching a film can take us into a different world and there is so much incentive to get away from reality, especially at the moment!

There is nothing wrong with watching tv or using social media but try to be more mindful about what it is doing to you. Try to notice when you are using an activity as a kind of addictive substitute for an undefinable something else.

When you seek to escape reality by not being present in the moment and not fully experiencing things, it has the unfortunate side-effect of making you feel less secure which can increase anxiety. Whereas, being fully aware and in control, actually helps you feel more secure.

It won’t necessarily be a conscious process, ironically, (as humans are a complex mixture of subconscious and conscious patterning) but on a deeper level your body will feel more secure and adjust accordingly.

After all, the body is physical. Yes you have other ‘bodies’ – the mental spiritual and emotional ‘bodies’ but the one that is in charge of your complex  hormonal and homeostatic systems is pretty important too, so you need to pay attention to its needs.

So, yes, it’s easy to be a Bubble Person, even for short amounts of time, but what us non-full-timers can do to help is be as present and aware as possible. That’s more easily said than done of course, as so much of what we do is autopilot; making tea, doing the shopping, taking the kids to school etc. But what if you used those things that you do every day as a way to practice being more present?

An easy way to start is every time you have a hot drink be conscious of filling the kettle, rather than doing it while thinking of something else. Take each sip mindfully, and if your mind wanders off, don’t be discouraged, just bring it back. (You’re bound to get lots of practice at that! – but it’s not a bad thing.) 

Being more consciously aware of what we do (even in small ways) can help us to become more grounded and then, in turn, demonstrate that for other people.

You might think others don’t care or notice what you do, or don’t do, but subconsciously they are picking up the change in your energy. As with critical mass, the more of us that are fully present, the more we will trigger other people to do the same.

So, the next time you realise you’re on automatic pilot, stop for a minute and come back to full conscious awareness. You might be surprised what a difference it makes.

How to deal with the emotional effects of Lockdown – what to do with all that ‘excess baggage’!

So what else could there be to blog about, than the current global situation?  We’ll all be having different experiences depending on our circumstances, but one thing we’ll have in common is that even the more fortunate of us who are able to ride out the lock down comfortably, will still find our ‘stuff’ coming up. There are various reasons for this.

Firstly stuff comes up when we stop and look around and have some time to think. That is happening for a lot of people at the moment.

For others, who haven’t had a chance to stop and have to keep on working really hard in challenging and frightening circumstances, the stress, as you might expect, piles up and triggers their stuff that way.

The general energy of fear and uncertainty; fear of getting the virus, fear for friends and family who are vulnerable or working on the front line,  fear over your job, whether you will be able to feed the family – all those are deeply rooted survival based fears and they will also bring up any emotional and mental issues you might have thought you’d buried!

Let’s face it. There might be escape from the virus but there’s no escaping the emergence of your stuff ! So I think it’s really important to talk about how best to deal with it.

Dan and I are lucky in that we are well placed to combat any emotional or mental patterns that jump up and bite us on the bum (and they have – don’t worry about that!) 😉 But what about everyone else who doesn’t have access to those techniques? Well – you will be pleased to hear that there are some simple things you can do that will help to dissipate and process whatever comes up.

Firstly and most importantly, when you are losing control, feeling fearful or panicky, or whatever is showing up, remember that it is vital information – about yourself and what is going on – that you might not always be aware of. As such, it is a golden opportunity and something that you can turn to your advantage.

Secondly – as with any issues – awareness is half the battle. Give the matter your conscious attention Instead of trying to ignore it or push it away, say, “Ok – I’m listening! What is it I need to know?”

So, you’ve realised that something useful has come up, and you’ve become aware of what that is about – for example, perhaps it has come up as an outburst of temper and when you look closely (giving it your attention)  you realise that underneath the anger there is a feeling of fear.

The third step is to ask yourself questions. How am I feeling?  Why do I think I am feeling that?  Ideally, in order to get the best information back from that unlimited source of knowledge which you can call God, your higher self, or just your subconscious; try to put yourself into a quiet contemplative state. Obviously if it is straight after the temper tantrum or panic attack, that won’t work – give yourself some time to calm down and then come back to it later!

The best way to get an answer to your question is to detach. Don’t watch your every thought for a pearl of wisdom to float in! Just relax, sit back and don’t pay it too much attention. In contrast to the part where you need to give attention to your emotions, this is the part where it’s best not to watch the pot too much while it is boiling! 😉

It is fine to think of something else. You’ve posed the question to your mind, now let it get on with finding you the answer. While you are not occupied with waiting for an answer, you may well find one drifts into your mind. When I say answer, I don’t mean – “the meaning of life is 42” – it will probably just manifest as a comment.  It is like holding a conversation with the inner you. The inner you will respond with some sort of comment – whether it is a flippant comment, a ‘nobody loves me’ comment, or ‘I don’t matter’ comment. It might sound negative but it is great information.

Then ask yourself – ‘I don’t matter?  Why do I think I don’t matter?’ And then wait for the answer – you may be surprised!

In our healing sessions, we would normally work on these feelings energetically, by finding their root and performing clearing techniques. However, it can be done in a simple and natural way over time, just by becoming aware of what the feeling is and what is behind it. There is no better expert on you than you! – and the more you know yourself and know where your feelings come from, the more power you have to change.

Change is what the world needs right now – change for the better that is! So hard as it is at the moment, remember, you don’t have power over the world, but you do have the power to change yourself.

Messages from Moo

Since Moo’s passing, we’ve been having regular communication with him via Dan. So, this month I thought I would share a few of the insights Moo has shared with us, as he insists this information is for everyone – although obviously, to accept and reject as they wish.

I have written Moo’s responses in the third person as I didn’t want to take it any further away from the original message, as it is already coming through a second party – i.e. Dan!

Is there anything you want to tell us?

Yes, Moo says, ‘don’t try to take on weight of world; don’t be brought down by all the negativity. Share stories and laughter and keep your energy vibration high.’ Moo says how much he loves us, and describes us as ‘bringers of joy.’ Spreading joy and having fun are very important for the planet, especially at the moment.

Does he mind answering questions?

No! (emphatic no) Gathering information is one of the more important things we can do. He is keen to help us with that.

Why has it been so easy to get on with our lives since you passed? (We thought we would be traumatized for months!)

Because the only part that is missing is the physical part and that only made up a very small fraction of how we interacted. There was lots happening at different levels. So, we’re now only missing a small part of that. And there is the fact that he has not ‘gone on’ and his energy is still here with us.

Does it cost you much energy to produce the smell that we smelt after your passing?

No, it doesn’t take much energy. It’s the same for any altering of physical reality.

Can people connect with pets after they’ve passed over?

Yes, even if they’ve moved on and reincarnated again. You can still connect with their consciousness as you have built a link to it during your lifetime.

When alive as cat, could you see more than we could see?

As cat, he could see energy disturbances – not necessarily a spirit or person, but the disturbance of energy that indicated someone was there.

How did you like being a cat?

Moo liked being a cat very much, it was an opportunity to express his soul through a different form than he usually would, and he said how special it was to do that.

What else could we be doing to make you happy Moo?

He says keep laughing and that our joy is exactly what this universe needs.

So, the message this month from us and Moo: keep laughing! Spread joy! Keep your vibration as high as your can, it will help you, help others and help the planet. Win win!