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How to deal with the emotional effects of Lockdown – what to do with all that ‘excess baggage’!

So what else could there be to blog about, than the current global situation?  We’ll all be having different experiences depending on our circumstances, but one thing we’ll have in common is that even the more fortunate of us who are able to ride out the lock down comfortably, will still find our ‘stuff’ coming up. There are various reasons for this.

Firstly stuff comes up when we stop and look around and have some time to think. That is happening for a lot of people at the moment.

For others, who haven’t had a chance to stop and have to keep on working really hard in challenging and frightening circumstances, the stress, as you might expect, piles up and triggers their stuff that way.

The general energy of fear and uncertainty; fear of getting the virus, fear for friends and family who are vulnerable or working on the front line,  fear over your job, whether you will be able to feed the family – all those are deeply rooted survival based fears and they will also bring up any emotional and mental issues you might have thought you’d buried!

Let’s face it. There might be escape from the virus but there’s no escaping the emergence of your stuff ! So I think it’s really important to talk about how best to deal with it.

Dan and I are lucky in that we are well placed to combat any emotional or mental patterns that jump up and bite us on the bum (and they have – don’t worry about that!) 😉 But what about everyone else who doesn’t have access to those techniques? Well – you will be pleased to hear that there are some simple things you can do that will help to dissipate and process whatever comes up.

Firstly and most importantly, when you are losing control, feeling fearful or panicky, or whatever is showing up, remember that it is vital information – about yourself and what is going on – that you might not always be aware of. As such, it is a golden opportunity and something that you can turn to your advantage.

Secondly – as with any issues – awareness is half the battle. Give the matter your conscious attention Instead of trying to ignore it or push it away, say, “Ok – I’m listening! What is it I need to know?”

So, you’ve realised that something useful has come up, and you’ve become aware of what that is about – for example, perhaps it has come up as an outburst of temper and when you look closely (giving it your attention)  you realise that underneath the anger there is a feeling of fear.

The third step is to ask yourself questions. How am I feeling?  Why do I think I am feeling that?  Ideally, in order to get the best information back from that unlimited source of knowledge which you can call God, your higher self, or just your subconscious; try to put yourself into a quiet contemplative state. Obviously if it is straight after the temper tantrum or panic attack, that won’t work – give yourself some time to calm down and then come back to it later!

The best way to get an answer to your question is to detach. Don’t watch your every thought for a pearl of wisdom to float in! Just relax, sit back and don’t pay it too much attention. In contrast to the part where you need to give attention to your emotions, this is the part where it’s best not to watch the pot too much while it is boiling! 😉

It is fine to think of something else. You’ve posed the question to your mind, now let it get on with finding you the answer. While you are not occupied with waiting for an answer, you may well find one drifts into your mind. When I say answer, I don’t mean – “the meaning of life is 42” – it will probably just manifest as a comment.  It is like holding a conversation with the inner you. The inner you will respond with some sort of comment – whether it is a flippant comment, a ‘nobody loves me’ comment, or ‘I don’t matter’ comment. It might sound negative but it is great information.

Then ask yourself – ‘I don’t matter?  Why do I think I don’t matter?’ And then wait for the answer – you may be surprised!

In our healing sessions, we would normally work on these feelings energetically, by finding their root and performing clearing techniques. However, it can be done in a simple and natural way over time, just by becoming aware of what the feeling is and what is behind it. There is no better expert on you than you! – and the more you know yourself and know where your feelings come from, the more power you have to change.

Change is what the world needs right now – change for the better that is! So hard as it is at the moment, remember, you don’t have power over the world, but you do have the power to change yourself.

Spring Clean… your liver!

Now we are in March, Spring has finally sprung – or at least, technically – and therefore it might be time to think about the annual Spring Clean.

If you’re wondering whether this is a post about cleaning – well not really – but don’t overlook the benefits of clearing out! Your house/car/surroundings are an extension of you and when you do physical tidying, cleaning etc, you are effectively working on yourself.  So, a very good way to get an energetic cleaning by doing something physical!

One part of the body that does a lot of work when it comes to cleaning is the liver. It works very hard, dealing with the toxins that we come into contact with, from the air, our food, our cleaning products, even things like new carpets (note how they have a horrible smell initially? – that’s the chemicals!).

Our liver does sterling work dealing with all these toxins but what most people aren’t aware of is that the liver also deals with a lot of our emotional garbage as well.  Depending on who you are and what has happened to you, you will have more or less emotional stuff to process and your liver may have to work extra hard. It does a wonderful job for us in that way and I think it is only fair that we try and repay the favour by giving it a bit of help from time to time!

There are various ways to do this. You can take a course of liver cleanse tablets (remember to keep well hydrated to keep everything flushing through though!) or there are various juices you can try as well.

Years ago, I tried a concoction of apple juice and olive oil, (plus other things) as a liver cleanse. I can’t say whether it was helpful as I have no medical proof, but it didn’t do me any harm, except for the oily feeling of drinking it, which rather put me off! Celery juice is very popular now – I have heard very good things about Anthony William’s book ‘Liver Rescue’ and have seen videos on the benefits of celery juicing; it looks worth a try if you think you can stand it!

So there are some ‘non woo-woo’ ways to clean out your liver. Take your pick! There IS an energetic way, however – and I don’t mean energetic as in running a marathon! 😉 We have filtered many livers for clients and friends! All it takes is a bit of faith and intention and Bob’s your uncle. But before you gain a new uncle, I’ll explain more about how it works.

The intention principle applies, as it does with everything we do energetically. You need to set your intent. This means deciding, or saying to yourself, that you mean to filter your liver of ‘anything unhelpful’. It is best to use that sort of  term as there may be certain chemicals that you DO need in your liver and so if you’re not an expert it is best to leave it vague so that Source energy, or however you prefer to think of it, will filter out only what you don’t need! When in doubt, I find it better to leave it up to Source who DOES know everything rather than myself,  since I am fallible and know very little in comparison!

The next thing to do, is imagine you have your liver in front of you (don’t worry – it doesn’t hurt!) 😉 Imagining works fine, you don’t have to actually feel anything. So long as you imagine and you have set your intention, that will be enough. Now run your dominant hand from right to left through your imaginary liver (or left to right if that feels more comfortable).

I like to keep the fingers splayed out as it helps me imagine that my hand is a kind of filter. Decide as you do it,  that anything you filter is being sent to a recycling bin (rather than just dropping onto the floor in a pile of energetic toxicity – not so good for house vibes!) 😉

Once you have established the intention, moved your hand and decided that anything filtered out is going to the recycling bin, you don’t have to keep re-imagining it each time. Just keep running your hand slowly through your liver and you may feel the energy is less dense. If so, bonus,  if not,  don’t worry; your intention is enough. You can always have a few goes at it too. If there is actually nothing to filter,  then you are just waving your hand about and no harm will come of it!

Once you have filtered toxins you can then go on to filtering out emotions. These may take longer – as emotional baggage generally does!  Since some emotions can be stubborn and don’t want to go, it is best to say to yourself, “I am filtering out all those emotions that are ready to leave or be let go of.” Otherwise, if you try and force it, your body may want to make its displeasure known and you could get a headache or other unpleasant side effect. It’s best to keep to filtering out only what is ready to leave; anything is better than nothing, after all. It can be of great benefit to you physically and emotionally.

If all that seems a bit too hard or strange, then get out your broom and mop and get into those long forgotten cupboards or neglected corners. You’ll feel saintly for doing it and your body will thank you as well!

 

 

Messages from Moo

Since Moo’s passing, we’ve been having regular communication with him via Dan. So, this month I thought I would share a few of the insights Moo has shared with us, as he insists this information is for everyone – although obviously, to accept and reject as they wish.

I have written Moo’s responses in the third person as I didn’t want to take it any further away from the original message, as it is already coming through a second party – i.e. Dan!

Is there anything you want to tell us?

Yes, Moo says, ‘don’t try to take on weight of world; don’t be brought down by all the negativity. Share stories and laughter and keep your energy vibration high.’ Moo says how much he loves us, and describes us as ‘bringers of joy.’ Spreading joy and having fun are very important for the planet, especially at the moment.

Does he mind answering questions?

No! (emphatic no) Gathering information is one of the more important things we can do. He is keen to help us with that.

Why has it been so easy to get on with our lives since you passed? (We thought we would be traumatized for months!)

Because the only part that is missing is the physical part and that only made up a very small fraction of how we interacted. There was lots happening at different levels. So, we’re now only missing a small part of that. And there is the fact that he has not ‘gone on’ and his energy is still here with us.

Does it cost you much energy to produce the smell that we smelt after your passing?

No, it doesn’t take much energy. It’s the same for any altering of physical reality.

Can people connect with pets after they’ve passed over?

Yes, even if they’ve moved on and reincarnated again. You can still connect with their consciousness as you have built a link to it during your lifetime.

When alive as cat, could you see more than we could see?

As cat, he could see energy disturbances – not necessarily a spirit or person, but the disturbance of energy that indicated someone was there.

How did you like being a cat?

Moo liked being a cat very much, it was an opportunity to express his soul through a different form than he usually would, and he said how special it was to do that.

What else could we be doing to make you happy Moo?

He says keep laughing and that our joy is exactly what this universe needs.

So, the message this month from us and Moo: keep laughing! Spread joy! Keep your vibration as high as your can, it will help you, help others and help the planet. Win win!

New Year New Moo! ;)

Apologies for the lack of a post in December but we were busy dealing with a rather surprising shift – that of our cat Moo, from the physical to the non physical. We were not expecting it at that point, although he was actually quite elderly for a Pedigree. We did expect though, that as and when the event happened, it would be a complete wipeout for us both.

Moo was our joy. He was ALL the joy, ALL the time. There aren’t really words to express how it felt having him in our lives. We thought it would be like trying to live in the world with the lights out, when he died. The actual experience was quite different however…

Moo suddenly stopped eating one weekend and with all the weight he’d lost earlier that year it didn’t take long for his body to shut down. We realise now, it was the time and method of his choosing so we can’t complain. It was also very peaceful and rather beautiful in an odd way, despite the trauma of having to ‘let him go’.

We are most definitely the jammiest ‘cat parents’ that ever lived, for being allowed to have him in the first place, and also because of the beautiful and incredibly advanced soul that he is. But most importantly because he chose to come and live with us AND (so he’s told us) that he intends to stay on for the duration of our physical incarnations! As far as we know, this isn’t very common – although it absolutely can happen.

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Animals will sometimes stay around for a while to comfort you. Sometimes they wait at the gate as it were, for you to pass on , or they might go on to another incarnation. Staying is rare, but it does happen – and we’re very grateful for it!

So… it has been rather different to how we expected!! It is actually the weirdest feeling – and we’re used to weird! 😉 It’s like feeling that he’s here, except you look around and you notice he’s physically not here. That’s what your eyes tell you. Your brain tells you something different – it’s telling you he IS here! It’s a most peculiar experience. But don’t get me wrong I’m very thankful for it!! I can’t even feel a hole, or sense of emptiness in the way that you do when a person or animal dies.

When my last cat died, it was very painful and took me several months to recover. This time it’s different though. Neither Dan or I can actually feel LACK. Moo was always there when we woke up (he usually woke us up and not at a very sociable time either ha ha!) Everything we did was for him or about him. Adjusting the curtains at night so he could jump through to the window ledge. Making sure we didn’t leave the front door open (he was an indoor cat), worrying about standing on him, shutting the bathroom door when running a bath in case he burnt himself, grooming his long coat, making sure he got enough fuss, checking his food and water, and when he last did a wee. Where was he (if he wasn’t already with us!) and did he need anything?

It was a 24/7 365/365 deal! And now we don’t do any of that. WE OUGHT TO MISS HIM!! We should feel a distinct LACK OF MOO! But it’s not there!

The other thing that’s different is that it’s much easier to communicate with him now. We were doing that before, especially when he was ill earlier this year and then later when he changed his toilet habits! But it is so much easier to ‘hear’ him now than it was before. We can also feel very much more clearly how much he loves us – which we were pretty certain of before, but – you know cats! One is always left wondering! LOL

Obviously, being who we are, working with and being sensitive to energy, has helped us greatly dealing with this transition, so we’re aware that we’re luckier than most in that respect. Especially the fact that he has chosen to stay around us so that we have that sense of his presence – which must be why we don’t feel that he’s ‘gone’!

Don’t get me wrong though – I’m not saying we didn’t grieve. The day he passed we went through a raft of emotions and more as the days and weeks went on. Shock, grief, numbness, denial, self recrimination (did we do enough to make him happy while he was alive?) and so on. But always this sense of not having actually lost him, although technically we had. It’s enough to make your head spin, so don’t think about it too hard while you’re reading this!

We also had the well-known phenomenon of a particular smell after a loved one passes. Usually it’s peculiar to the deceased – for example my husband Bob would always try and use Germolene on his face and I would tell him off. When he died I smelt… Germolene!! Often though, it’s something like a favourite flower or perfume – so less of the Germolene!!

With Moo there was a very particular smell after he died. I should have known better but I thought it might be me, so I had a bath, washed my hair, changed my clothes and STILL I could smell it – on and off the whole day. Even at the pub in the evening! I did know what it was really, but my logical mind needed me to wash, change clothes etc, just to be sure! 😉

Probably the thing that helped me the most, especially at the time, was when Moo was dying and I asked Dan to cut the cords to the physical body, so he could shoot off quickly and avoid too much discomfort. While Dan was doing that, Moo said just one thing to him: “I’ll be right back!”. It was everything I ever needed to hear!

We have – of course – because we can! – been communicating with Moo since his passing and have been asking him all sorts of questions – such as how do things work ‘over there’ for him and for us ‘over here’. It’s been most enlightening. I am writing a little book about our experience and hope to publish some of the ‘Conversations with Moo’ later on, as there is much wisdom there and he insists that the information is open to all and important for people to have (or disregard if they like).

The first thing he told us was how beautiful it was. How he can see more colours and hear more sounds than he could before. Everything is a lot lighter too. There was a great sense of excitement and freedom as his energy is no longer limited to the physical body.

He is very excited about helping us, our friends and of course our clients. It has always been his intention to work with us in the healing clinic – which he did, as and when he wanted to! – while he was alive, but he’s very keen to work more as a team, now that he has no physical limitations. We feel incredibly lucky. The future, which we expected to be very dark without him, is now looking like it’s going to be a whole lotta light! Thank you Moo!

To wee – or not to wee (on the carpet!). The ins and outs of animal healing and healing ourselves as well!

Recently we have had to do some energy work on our cat Moo, who had a bout of illness and as a result, changed his ideas about where he would like to do his business!

While he’s not too bothered about weeing in the lounge or pooing in my study, we found it a bit upsetting to say the least! After a quick vet visit to rule out bladder infection or other physical problem, we then went to work to try and understand this delightful change of habit! 😉

Our methods when we work on a cat, as opposed to a client, i.e. a person are quite similar in lots of ways. With a person, we look for patterns on both the conscious and subconscious levels. With our cat however, that’s not quite the same, although as far as I know, he does have a conscious and a subconscious although I’m still a bit fuzzy how that works for cats! 😉

With something like this we like to talk to him to ask if there is anything he is worried about. When I say ‘talk’ I don’t mean chatting out loud of course – although there are times when that is useful and applicable. We use a method that is probably similar to that used by animal communicators. We tune into our cat’s energy, as we would with a client. Then we ask a clear question and wait for an answer – again in much the same way that we might when working on a person. I ask the question in my mind and wait for intuition/Source/my higher self to give me useful information.

So far so similar! In Moo’s case, he sometimes gives us answers such as, “I’m not recovered enough to use the litter tray. I want to. I need more time.” Which is great. However, when we asked why he suddenly decided to wee in the bedroom, we got the answer – “How would I know?!”

This is the point where we could have given up in despair, but we’ve gained a lot of experience working on Moo and have discovered something interesting. When we give an energetic message to our cat, it can be received in two ways. There is his higher self or soul and then there is what we call his ‘cat self’.

The cat self is instinctive in nature, it watches out for predators, chases birds or walks a certain route around the room. This said ‘cat self’ is separate from the higher self or soul and if you tell something to the higher self and get the message “OK, I’m happy now”, that is good, but you also have to inform the ‘cat self’ or you won’t get the changes you were looking for.

When talking to ‘cat self’ we found it communicates on a more simplistic level. Sometimes, just an emotion, picture, or one word reply, whereas higher self can give us more detailed responses.

In this case, we deliberately tuned in to speak to ‘cat self’ and asked about the bedroom incident! Cat self communicated (in feelings/pictures) that it was feeling anxious about weeing downstairs but felt safe when we were in the room, hence the 2 a.m. bedroom wee!

Once we realised this, we were able to do some energy work on fear patterns and being safe, which we made sure was heard by cat self as well as higher self! This seems to have done the trick! – but it occurred to me that we humans also need to understand things on different levels in order for healing to occur.

When we are working on a client with a physical problem, we try to get to the root of why it is happening and make a change there. For example, when I was trying to heal my hiatus hernia I realised I needed to make the decision to move house so there was less pressure on me.

Once my body realised I was committed to making changes, it was prepared to ease up on the physical symptoms. Yay! So we always ask if the body has heard the message.

Sometimes, though, it’s not enough, the body has heard but not understood. I’m not sure why this is, but I think it’s to do with the fact that some of our ideas and emotions exist at a very deep level so need a bit more work to shift them.

It is important to line up both responses in order to get physical change, so if something doesn’t happen and on the surface it looks like everything is lined up for success, try looking a little deeper – it may be you have a subconscious belief or feeling that is getting in the way.

Talking to the subconscious can be tricky, but if you put yourself into a relaxed state where you are not pushing too hard, you can ask questions and get answers back. They might not be what you expect – but very useful all the same – so anytime you are really struggling and cannot make sense of why, it might be time to have a little chat with your subconscious!