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Is it ethical to help someone without their permission? Can you send remote or distance healing to someone without their knowledge? And what do you do, if you ask and they flat out refuse! Should you give up and go away or is there something you can do?

I was told years ago that there were very strict rules on what you could and couldn’t do for other people For example, when sending out healing to someone, you had to get their permission. However, it’s not quite as cut and dried as that. The idea that you are the ‘door’, not the ‘doer’ is foundational to most healing therapies. The practitioner ‘opens the door’, by offering energy to the client and it is up to that person whether or not to let it in and enable their own healing.  So in that case, the matter of permission is moot.

The idea of permission being unnecessary also comes from  the fact that we live in something called a ‘free will’ Universe. That is to say we have the power over our own lives, to make our own decisions, for better or for worse – and before you start asking what is a non-free-will Universe like, I may as well make it clear – I have no idea!

In this particular Universe however, we have the power to make decisions for ourselves about what we will and won’t accept – and that goes for energy coming in, such as thoughts of love and healing etc. How do we decide if we’re going to accept it if we don’t know it’s coming? Well that’s the thing – we DO know!

There are machines that can take pictures of the aura, or energy body, but what no-one can tell us, is where that energy body ends. I think that it doesn’t. That we are somehow plumbed in to ‘all-that-is’, but most people aren’t aware of it. The upshot is – that you know more than you know you know! 😉 With that said, imagine someone sending out remote healing to you. You could be sitting at home or at work, doing whatever it is you do and you wouldn’t have a clue it was happening – consciously that is.

Your subconscious is a different matter.  There is a lot we pick up subconsciously and absent healing is just one of those things. You might be eating a meal at the same time as your subconscious picks up a stream of healing energy sent your way. While you’re tucking in unawares, part of you will either accept the energy or block it. Isn’t that great? You don’t have to ‘do’ anything?! You can just get on with your dinner! That energy if accepted will go on to do it’s job, either – during dinner – or if it considers it more expedient – later on, say when you’re asleep. No effort needed on your part!

It’s not so good however when you’re in a healing session and the conscious part of your mind wants to accept help, while your subconscious is giving it the boot! Part of our work is checking for blocks and clearing them so that changes can be made. Blocks are a pain in the arse (I’m English, otherwise they’d be a pain in the ass!) 😉  They really need a post to themselves so I’ll come back to them another time.

Let’s get back on topic. You are sending healing to someone. You haven’t asked their permission, they’ve got (consciously) no idea it’s coming. No problem! Their unconscious self will sort out the ‘permission’ part so you will not be going against their free will.

In most situations this isn’t necessary as you would normally be able to have a conversation to ask them if they would like to receive healing. I wouldn’t suggest going around sending out to all and sundry, whether they want it or not. It may not defy any karmic laws but it’s not ideal!

Talking of karma – since it IS possible to go against someone’s free will (although that strays into other areas such as ‘magic’ and personal power) it’s worth noting that those actions have a price. Even if you intend to do good but are actually forcing your will onto someone else, there will be some kind of unwanted repercussion, so I wouldn’t recommend it.

A friend of mine once sent out healing to a man who was seriously ill, and in this case she didn’t ‘ask permission’ or tell him it was happening. She told me that her healing had bounced back and she didn’t know why, which illustrates what I have been saying about being able to block what is being offered, whether you know about it or not.

We may never know why people reject healing energies. Just because someone is ill, doesn’t mean that they’ll be open to healing, in fact they may well have given up hope and shut down completely. There are many reasons why people, consciously or subconsciously, refuse to accept help; they may be overwhelmed, despairing, or even scared of change (even if that change might save their life). It is a complex issue, but the point is that sometimes, however hard you try, you can’t ‘get in’.

It is very hard to accept, when you believe you can help someone but they turn you down or shut you out. It is hardest of all when those people are family members or close friends, but even in that situation there is something you can do.

‘Doing’ might be a bit of an odd choice of word, but energetically it is accurate! If someone is flat out refusing to change or accept help then the best thing you can ‘do’ for them is to take a step back and accept their decision. This is a technique that can be used, not just by therapists but for everyone else as well.

By all means, use your persuasion or your therapy skills in the first instance, but at the end of the day, if it doesn’t work then you have to accept it is not the right time. The best way to help them is not to cut off from them or detach (although I appreciate it may be painful). Stay present, and try to feel acceptance for where they are in their lives at the moment.  It’s not an easy thing to do but try to remember you are playing a longer game, and focus on the end result.

As I mentioned earlier, people can feel energetically if you are trying to change them and will instinctively protect themselves. In this situation they will probably expect pressure or resistance from you and when they don’t pick it up, it confuses them. They no longer need to adopt a defensive position.

This is progress – as when people ‘fling up a wall’ there is no getting past it! If you can get them to relax their (energetic) defensive stance then you start to create room for things to happen. You can’t force it, but just by holding an energy of non-judgement and acceptance, it encourages them to change. You may have heard the expression – ‘what you resist persists’? Or ‘desperation repels’? Both of those are true which is why, in that situation, you need to stop trying so hard, in fact you need to stop ‘trying’ full stop! Trying creates pressure and resistance, which the person you are trying to help will detect and their barriers will go up!

There is no guarantee of course of results, and I’m not saying it’s a walk in the park – but I do believe it is the ‘only’ thing that can give you – or rather them –  the best chance of making a change.

So… those are my thoughts on how and when you can – and should – try to help people. Ideally people will ask for help or you will offer and they will accept, but life is complicated. Now you have a couple more options when you’re really stuck and you don’t need to worry about being struck down or karma biting you on the bum. Result! 😉

 

 

The power of belief in energy therapy. Does disbelief matter? Can it affect the outcome and will you still get results?

This is something I’m often asked. If you come for a session of Multi-Dimensional Healing, do you need to believe in it first? If you don’t believe, will it make a difference?

So far I have found that disbelief on its own is not strong enough to block the client from getting results from a session. I suspect you would need to feel a strong emotion such as hostility or fear – and more along the lines of terror rather than trepidation!

I would normally be able to give an example, but I’ve never worked on anyone who was actively hostile or terrified. I think there is an obvious reason for that!

I have however worked with clients who have never experienced anything remotely ‘woo woo’ and although they have been sceptical and slightly nervous of what it might involve, we still got results. If an emotion was strong enough then it could produce an energy similar to a block. We come across, and actively look for blocks, all the time in sessions, as they need to be cleared in order for change to happen. I think this may be the reason that a treatment, whether medicine-based or alternative, doesn’t always work, as something is stopping the body from allowing change.

We have come across lots of different types of blocks in our work but I’ll save those for another post! Suffice it to say that if you believe something strongly enough and it is an unhelpful belief then that can block you getting what you want.

If you break it down, belief is just a mental pattern. You may have heard is said that our thoughts and beliefs shape our lives. Perhaps you’ve also heard the story of frogs climbing a tower? They drop out one by one and the spectators are all shouting that it isn’t possible.

One frog makes it to the top regardless. When asked why he wasn’t deterred by the doubt and negativity, it turns out he was deaf! This is so true of life. If enough people tell us we can’t, then we may well believe them and give up, or we may keep going, but if we believe it cannot be done we are much more likely to fail. If we can ignore the voices, either externally or internally that are telling us we ‘can’t’, we are on the path to success.

 

 

If you watch programmes like ‘Who Dares Wins’ for example, you will hear a lot about mental strength. It is all very well having the physical strength (I wish I was even a fraction as fit!) but as you watch, it becomes clear that super fitness isn’t enough. Special forces recruits have to have the mental toughness not to give up on themselves.

When the recruits are confronted about a mistake or exposed in a lie, you can see their insecurities take over. Instead of deciding to do better, they focus on their failings and their lack of self-belief eventually sees them eliminated. The important thing to recognise is that the only person who takes them out of the game is themselves. This is true of life and why it is so important to identify what beliefs form our reality.

There is a bigger picture to be considered as well, but clearing unhelpful beliefs is an important part of our work. At the end of the day, beliefs like thinking that you can’t learn an instrument, can’t get a job or can’t find a partner, are just going to get in your way. It is an all-round ‘lose lose’ scenario!

So, since it’s a new year and time to clear the slate, start looking at what you believe about yourself and your life. Are those beliefs helpful? If they aren’t – throw them out and get new ones!

Yes, you can come for a session of Multi-Dimensional Healing and we’ll help you get rid of them, but there is nothing stopping you doing the work yourself. A belief is only a thought that you continue to think over and over again.

You can create beliefs by telling yourself a new story about your situation. Make if up if you have to, or deliberately find examples around you that support your belief. The more you focus on building it up, the stronger it gets. Eventually it sinks into your subconscious and becomes part of your reality. With focus and determination and by constantly reminding yourself what you are trying to do, you can get it done!

Here’s to a new, happy and successful you with brand new sparkling and supportive beliefs! Bottoms up!